RELATIONSHIPS - How to Make Them Work
By Sergio Salotto

The requirements for having a naturally working relationship are rather simple. There are no magical formulas or any long convoluted processes required. There is also no need to play any games of give and take—if anything, that should be a red flag that the relationship is not really working naturally. 

The fundamental requirements to make a relationship work naturally and automatically is for the parties to be GIVERS in the relationship. Only where there is GIVING will everyone benefit from what is made available.
The only way a party or partner in a relationship can be a GIVER is by being who they really are; living without the need to fulfil emotional fears and needs. That means facing up to and dealing with all the emotional needs and fears driven by your MOULD.
Eliminating the control you give your MOULD will allow you to automatically be and manifest your real Self, take responsibility for your life and exercise your Life-given freedom of choice. This way you will no longer be a victim of your circumstances and dependent on these to feel OK about yourself.

So how do we become OK with ourselves?

Like all newborn children, you are born with love, happiness, joy, self-worth, confidence, peace and contentment—that is why you are able to recognise and experience them. These are Life elements/qualities you will find only in one place—yes, within yourself. It is not possible for you to find them anywhere else—not your parents, partner or whomever. It is only your MOULD that makes you feel and believe that you are deficient of these qualities. The reality is that you already have them.

Since you already have within you all the love, trust, peace, happiness, self-worth, confidence etc. that you are seeking, it means that you have no real emotional needs. As you already have all these within right from the beginning, it means that you have been and indeed are a complete human being. If you are complete then you are whole. If you are whole it means that you are also PERFECT.

Hard to believe isn’t it.

Man’s notion and conviction that as Human Beings we are imperfect is totally incorrect.

To experience your perfection however you must take responsibility and accept that your MOULD is nothing more than a self-created belief with no basis on reality. As the creator of your MOULD you have total control and power over it. Since you are its Creator, you therefore have the control and power to uncreate it. The only factors that can prevent you from uncreating your MOULD is allowing yourself to remain driven by your perceived emotional fears and needs. Not eliminating your belief in your MOULD will not allow you to take responsibility for your life and manifest yourself for who and what you really are. 

Manifesting who you are will clarify your life’s dreams or vision, your Life Purpose. A passion you carry from birth and one you are in constant touch with every day—even though you may notsee it as such.

By two people in a relationship living to fulfil their respective Life Purpose, they give the relationship a “purpose.” A purpose could be as simple as to create the space for each party to live their lives independently of the other yet creating an indescribable bond and sense of togetherness at all levels. Some people question whether this means granting your partner a free licence to sleep around etc. No it does not. If anything, it does the opposite. Since living from a point of perfection means that one has no needs to fulfil or prove, they have not need or reason to prove their sexual prowess or have any other emotional need to fulfil by having to sleep around—or drink, take drugs, compromise themselves or whatever.

When living from a point of perfection, love takes on a far greater and profound meaning of togetherness and the need to use sex to show one’s love or experience being loved do not exist. Unconditional love and having sex are not necessarily linked. Casual sex for example can be had without love playing any role—as is the case with sex workers (prostitution), casual encounters/affairs, sleeping with the boss and so on. Equally, unconditional acceptance and love can exist without any need for sexual expression—like the love towards a sibling, parents, a close friend.

Where two people are in a relationship as an expression of their own perfection, they will experience their relationship as a state of “being mutually and natural related”. In such a relationship you will have no need to work to keep the relationship together. Because you are manifesting your perfection, it means that you have no expectations needing to be met. Having no expectations means that you have no need to TAKE anything from either your partner or the relationship. What all this amounts to is that by being yourself you are automatically a GIVER—by the simple virtue that you have no need to TAKE (because you are OK with you).

YOUR LIFE CAN BE DIFFERENT

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