
For many getting to the BIG 40 means great celebrations.
For me it was a time of self-introspection
as I experienced a shaky marriage, I did not seem to
be going any further in my career, our small
family business was a financial burden I could not
afford, and my life in general was just not OK.
In the hope of finding answers to my situation, my
search for a solution lead to my attending an
experiential life-awareness workshop. Having completed
two parts of the workshop, the third was to
come about a year later, I felt I had gained enough
to be able to cope with my life situation. I soon
discovered however that it wasn’t to be so. Despite
what I felt I had gained in the workshops, I still
found myself wondering whether I had wasted my time
and money. A few months later I kept getting
a nagging feeling “telling” me to write
down my life experiences. Not ever having kept any
personal
diaries or journals I shrugged off those feelings as
nonsense after all, I told myself, what am I
supposed to write about? But, the more I resisted those
feelings the more the feelings persisted.
Eventually at the beginning of May 1991 I surrendered
to those thoughts and I started out on what
turned out to be a very different journey of self-introspection,
self-questioning and analysis, and also
of great realism over how and why I had lived my life
the way I had. When I started out on this
journey of writing I had no clue, idea or objective
of what I was working towards.
After about a month of pouring my heart out on an
A4 executive pad, one night I felt I needed to read
back to myself what I had written. As I read I saw
a common pattern developing of how I had shaped
every event in my life out of my attitudes, beliefs,
points of view, (emotional) fear of possible
consequences, and all the resulting behaviours that
prevented me form doing what I really wanted. I
became aware of the many emotional fears and baggage
I was still carrying around with me despite
all the work I had already done in the workshops
I
had attended. I also saw how all this was driven
by what emerged to be my own unique fundamental life
driving
force, an element not dealt with in
the workshop I had attended. This driving force turned
out to be the essence out of which I had
moulded my entire life. By the time I reached the end of my writings it was
clear how as a result of this fundamental life
driving force I had compromised myself on all the fundamental
elements of my life - my relationship
with my parents, my education, my career, my intimate
relationships, and most of all my relationship
with myself. It was now also clear how even though
I believed I had been exercising my freedom of
choice in everything I did, in reality this fundamental
life driving force did not really allow me to
exercise any real freedom of choice. I was now able
to realise why my life was filled with:
- stress
- emotional fear (of possible consequences)
- frustration
- depression
- mental anxiety
- self-compromise
- lack of self-worth
- lack of self-confidence
and other related emotional discomfort and pain.
In sharing my experience with people close to me,
I discovered and realised how they too were living
their lives driven by their own UNIQUE fundamental
life driving force, something which up to that
moment they too were not aware of - despite many of
them also having attended self-awareness
workshops. From these experiences I started facilitating
my own experiential and self-awareness
workshops aimed at helping people uncover and deal
with their own UNIQUE fundamental life
driving force thus empowering them to go out and lead
more meaningful and fulfilling lives, enjoy
more open and loving relationships, and have the opportunity
of experiencing real inner peace and
contentment.
That is why and how OPTIO was started.
As a human and spiritual being you deserve to experience
a better life. It is your LIFE-given right.
YOUR LIFE, CAN BE DIFFERENT

Sergio Salotto
Owner & facilitator
OPTIO - Your Path to Inner Peace
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For as long as I can remember, seeing
discrimination practised at any level has
always raised the emotion of anger in me.
I have always seen discrimination as being
the strong against the weak, like men against
women, adults against children man destroying
nature, one culture over another, good
versus evil, the rich getting richer at
the expense of the poor, the employer discriminating
against his employees, the self-righteous
wars between religions, and so with many
other of our ways of life.
Believing myself to be overreacting, for
most of my life I did not pay much attention
to these feelings and thoughts. I always
thought that they were emotions arising
out of my idealistic beliefs which I believed
had no place in the real world I lived
in. It seemed to me that my ideology and
real life were two separate worlds that
could never co-exist. And yet deep within
I always felt that it had to be different,
that they should be one and the same.
From my early teens, my life’s dream
has always been to one day have an organisation
or own a company that would be a place
that meant more to the people than just
somewhere to go and earn a living. It was
to be a place that did more for people
than pay them an earning. This was to be
a place where everyone was accepted as
an equal regardless of gender, colour,
or role they played or function they performed.
This company would operate in such a way
that participating members would find themselves
there not simply because they wanted to
earn a living but because of a greater
meaning. A meaning of being allowed to
do what was important for their lives,
a place where they could realise their
life’s dreams. And in so doing they
would always give and produce only the
best.
In return, this company would ensure
that all its people were taken care of
in every way. No one would have to concern
themselves about their daily needs for
survival, having a roof over their heads,
education for their children, providing
for their retirement, etc. All would be
taken care of. Idealistic? On more than
one occasion I have been told that this
is a pipe-dream, it is idealistic, in our
way of life this cannot be, that it is
all ridiculous, it will never work, it
simply is not possible, not a workable
model. Much of what I have been told is
in fact true if one looks at my dream in
today’s life-style. It is however
also a fact that our present life-style
only exists because it is founded on the
very basis and fundamental principle of
discrimination.
But, what may be considered as being
idealistic and unworkable, is in fact a
model that was in existence for centuries
before being destroyed by civilised cultures
and populations. For centuries native cultures
of many lands lived on the basis of a communal
life style where, for example, if there
was food everyone ate and when there was
no food no one ate.
Furthermore, all that was done was for
the overall benefit of the community where
each took care of one another. This system
no doubt worked very well for centuries
until we imposed on them our Western civilisation
principles and destroyed anyone who resisted
them.
Is my dream idealistic? I think not. Perhaps
it is nothing more than reviving a very
tried and tested workable system that would
bring about unconditional equality in a
present world of discrimination and inequality.
This way every human being and other life
form would be able to co-exist for the
common purpose of manifesting who and what
each really is. Together we ALL are an
expression of the ONE LIFE - there should
be no separateness as currently exists.
That dream finally turned into the beginnings
of becoming a reality when in 1992 I started
my company OPTIO for the express purpose
of realising my life-long dream. It all
started coming together when in 1992 I
decided to start facilitating my own self
awareness workshops. The journey of
fulfilling that dream has been far from
easy and even to this day it remains a
challenge. There are many people that identify
with my dream and who would be willing
to join such an established set up. But
few are willing to let go of what they
have and commit themselves to establishing
such a community. The idea of living in
a natural and health-conscious, self-sustaining
community environment appeals to many but
most are too scared to let go of their
materialistic wealth.
My challenge to realise my dream is still
very much alive.
My journey, and search, for like-minded
people to come together for the establishment
of such a community still
goes on.
Sergio Salotto |
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