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This website is one of my tools to manifest my life purpose: “The expression of power and creativity through the creation of an environment of peace, contentment and perfection for the manifestation of love, trust, caring, honesty, fun and freedom of choice."
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Hi
Welcome to my website OPTIO.
The Chinese TAO says…
Truly knowing yourself is the greatest power and control you can attain in life.
No amount of material wealth, career achievement, sporting success, social status or other such “reward” and recognition can grant one the power and control that truly knowing oneself will give.
How well do you really know yourself? Is the way you are living your life define who and what your really are? Or rather, is the way you are living your life a real manifestation of who and what you really are? Is who and what you are defined by your name, gender, age, cultural background, profession, religion and so on? Or might there be a more purposeful definition of you?
Consider the choices have you made for your life. How many of these have been driven by your cultural values and norms, religious beliefs, your points of view, your fears of possible consequences, your need for recognition and acceptance? How many times have you compromised yourself out of fear of being rejected? Have the “choices” you made really brought you everlasting complete peace and contentment for your life? Or are you perhaps silently carrying unfulfilled life dreams, regrets and so on?
The answer to these questions boils down to whether or not you have exercised your true freedom of choice in each situation – something you are unlikely to have done in the true sense.
To varying degrees the issues people experience in their life can be summarised to fall into one, several or a combination of the following issues:
- relationship issues
- compromising to please others to demonstrate a caring, love and unselfishness – or for fear of being unaccepted, rejected
- taking decisions out of fear of the possible consequences (generally .. need to be accepted)
- living in fear of being rejected, being alone, not being part of, not being loved, not wanted etc.
- feel they are being taken advantage of
- an inner belief of “not being good enough”
- wondering what our life purpose might be
… you will undoubtedly have others of your own.
If we are exercising our true freedom of choice about everything we do, then why is it that our choices more often than not result in us experiencing frustration, anxiety, anger, depression, stress, unhappiness, illness, separation, feeling unwanted and unloved and so on? If you truly exercise freedom of choice in everything about your life then you should experience nothing other than peace, contentment, happiness, joy, fun and love at every moment about everything you do. The reality however is that that is not how you are living or experiencing your life.
Which means, that something must be very wrong. What might that be?
What is wrong is that contrary to what you may want to believe, you are experiencing the above issues because you are not really exercising the true and real freedom of choice available to you. A reality I uncovered in my forties when I discovered something very unique, powerful and life-altering for my own life. Following from that and the work I have done since with people, I realised that what I had uncovered was something that drives all of us (read “Discovering my Inner Peace” - my personal journey). This was the moment when I discovered my real self.
Through my website I make available the tools that helped me which may also help you embark on your own unique life journey of self discovery.
When you really know yourself and create your life out of that, you will no longer be troubled by any of the above “issues.” That is the power and control you can have by truly know yourself.
Let me also share with you another interesting thing which most people don’t know and also don’t believe possible. You already have all the answers for your life.
You just either do not know how to recognise them or are too scared to accept them. And I do not say that merely to make you feel good or because of any religious, metaphysical or philosophical believe.
It does sound crazy doesn’t it? I mean, how could you possibly already know and have all your answers? If that was that case, why you choose to go against what you know is right just to face an ongoing struggle of life issues?
The answer is quite simple. If you did not already know and have the answers, you would not experience any emotional conflict because you would simply accept everything at face value and be content and at peace with it. Instead you don’t. And the reason why you create conflict for yourself is because you deny and go against that inner knowing.
Now you might wonder, “but how do I know what is truly right for me when everything around me is telling me otherwise?”
A good question. One that takes us back to what the TAO refers to as,
As I said above, this is what I am offering you. Some tools to help you get to know who you really are.
As with any project, there are certain basic things you need have and know in order to succeed. Like for example, an objective, appropriate tools and “how to use” the tools, etc. In other words, you need an “instruction manual.” A project to find the answers for your life is no different.
For this “project” (your life) these first three articles are your “instruction manual,” the foundations for your journey.
- Discovering my Inner Peace (about my own journey)
- Uncover your MOULD (My Own Unique Life Driver) – discover how you shape your life
- Freedom of Choice versus Decision making
These articles - read in any order - show you how your Unique Life Driver
plays a role in your life.
- Uncover your MOULD
- A Need to Love
- Freedom of Choice versus Decision Making
- Man’s Power to Choose
- Relationships – why don’t they work
- Relationships – how to make them work
- Compromise – The Payoffs and Reality
- Our Children
- Uncover your Life Purpose (Vision)
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